"stop worrying about what others are responsible for. only be responsible for what you can control. if people choose to be mean even after you were nice, that's their choice. not everyone can handle taking responsibility for their actions. be responsible." (listening online to pastor hunter at northlandchurch.net)
when i was a lot younger, i thought everyone was responsible who was older. now that i'm much older, i realize this is more of an exception to find people who actually choose to be responsible for their actions. it's just easier for people to blame someone else, i guess.
soooo...what do we do? hate them all. NO. not really. instead, mentally prepare for the irresponsible...see the following tactic:
Prepare yourself mentally – The final way of dealing with irresponsible people is to simply expect them to be that way. This isn’t to say that you should run around thinking the worst of people. However, there are some people who are going to do what they are going to do, no matter how many problems it causes for other people. If they are going to do their thing regardless of your efforts to the contrary, then the best thing that you can do is to just be ready for it on a mental level. Even chaos, anarchy, and negativity aren’t as bad if we are ready for them. Often, just being ready for something will limit the negative effect that it has on us.