Saturday, June 21, 2008

Happy Birthday Michelle!

CLUB 30 forever (or at least until next year)!

Have you been here? I have.

How to Divorce Your Friends

“Laughter is not a bad beginning for a friendship, and it is the best ending for one.”—Oscar Wilde

A friendship can be compared to a marriage in that it involves trust, understanding, communication and similar goals and interests between the participants. Two people willingly commit to being dependable and supportive, having fun, and genuinely having the other’s best interest at heart. What do you do when that initial friendship “spark” is gone or when one party betrays the other? Read on.

Friendship Fling
Shorter-term friendship “flings” are better left forgotten. Just walk away and forget they even existed. Examples of such flings are the interesting professor who takes your streetcar (and now obsesses about your whereabouts) or the sweet intoxicated girl who held the stall door shut for you at your local watering hole (and wants to know if she can “crash at your place”). These flings require emotional annulments. Erase them from your memory. Stop calling, take an earlier streetcar, or slowly distance yourself.

Long-Term Friendship
Some friendships are longer-term and have more history than others—perhaps a childhood friend, or a school chum with whom you’ve remained close. These long-term friendships have a lot invested in them. You must take careful consideration as to whether it is worth salvaging. Are you both willing to compromise on an issue? Can a broken trust be mended? If the breach has deemed your friendship unfixable, it is likely that your friend feels the same way. Exercise some maturity and suggest that the situation at hand has gotten you both so stressed that it would be best if you spent some time apart from one another in order to save your friendship. This trial separation will let you know if the friendship was meant to be. (I highly recommend this tactic. Time really does tell and you may be surprised when it does.)

Who Gets What?
Division of property can be an uncomfortable conversation with a soon-to-be-former friend. Many neighbours have good intentions when jointly purchasing a lawnmower or snow blower, but how do you divide such an indivisible object? Joint custody is not an option. The only solutions are to buy out the other friend or sell the object and split the difference. Check out and click on "How Ebay Works" for more information, or place an ad in your local Pennysaver or on the gym bulletin board.

Sharing the Details
Explaining the end of a friendship to other friends does not have to be the mountain you perceive it will. When people ask you, “How is Candace?” you simply reply, “We haven’t spoken in a while.” Soon enough people will stop asking. Prefer a more direct approach? State that you two had a falling out or that you drifted apart, but try to remain composed. If it was a serious friendship betrayal your close friends will have already heard the details and wouldn’t be asking. Drudging up past differences is not healthy (and bad Karma). You have moved on, remember? (I certainly have and am amazed at all the wonderful people who have come my way since. Sometimes you have to let go to get something new.)

Written By:Tracey Lord

Friday, June 20, 2008

Mr. Wonderful and I go to see Jesus Christ Superstar

Saw Jesus Christ Superstar at the Bob Carr tonight.
Both Mr. Wonderful and I agreed it was okay.

THANK YOU Andres and Maria!!

Back at ID

Last night we frequented one of our favorite restaurants for the first time with our new baby girl. It was kind of a last minute decision made mainly by Mr. Wonderful since that time period has become my brief break before the late night shift. She did great though and seemed to enjoy the place...A very good sign since we love it there. The owner gave CJ a special present. A little necklace from China that means longevity and wealth. I am amazed at how generous people are and can be especially with little babies.

Friday, June 13, 2008

I can't believe it!

NBC's Tim Russert dies of apparent heart attack. Read more here...I just saw Tim in October at the PRSA International Conference and was in complete disbelief when I read online today that he has passed away. Mr. Wonderful and I have always been fans of Tim and after seeing him in Philadelphia last year, it reinforced why I appreciated him and the work that he does, now did, as a journalist. We will miss you Tim!

More visits...It's CHS week!

Auntie Heather and CJ - Their first visit together. :-)

Heather pushing CJ in the stroller

Shannon (she's expecting a baby in Sept.) and little CJ

Wednesday, June 11, 2008

Fun Night!

The stars were out last night!

On Leadership...

"In seeking wisdom, the first step is silence, the second listening, the third remembering, the fourth practicing, the fifth-teaching others."
— Ibn Gabirol, poet and philosopher (c. 1022-1058)

Monday, June 09, 2008

So grateful

So, we've been home and very busy for the last two weeks but I'm happy to say that the outpour of love and support has been so amazing. From the simplest things like a phone call to a home cooked meal, I can honestly say that you learn so much about people, your friends and your family, when you are going through a major life change.

Tomorrow night I am planning to get out of the house for an extended amount of time. I'm looking forward to it but of course, I'm a little nervous not so much for her but more for me. I guess you don't know how it'll go until you try.

So, THANK YOU to those of you who have made this experience easier for me. I love you and know that it means so much to our little family.

Random Happy Photos (retro style) - Thanks to Lanie!